Ben Franklin’s 13 Virtues: Week 13, Q3
Humility: “Imitate Jesus and Socrates”
- Put yourself into the shoes of others;
- Remember that we all falter.
“Imitate Jesus and Socrates” is tough to do. We toss around such phrases glibly, in a manner that has almost become (or has become) derogatory: “What would Jesus do?” I feel both the recipient and the bestower could do well with a little deeper reflection. Let’s sit here now with a little deeper reflection. I know in my heart I am perfectly flawed. We all are. How much can we do?
A friend of ours battling alcoholism has relapsed. The underlying conditions weren’t tackled the first time and I’m not sure the person closest to him has the wherewithal to tackle them again. Sadly, we’ll probably be here for a third time, but hopefully not. I hope not, because I’m really tired and want to walk away. I don’t think I’ll be here a third time.
It’s exhausting, and I’m sure anyone who has dealt with this type of behavior understands. You spend hours on the phone with friends and family doing nothing but re-hatching darkness over and over again. You spend time in the dark and you begin to see in the dark. There is mental wear. There is physical wear.
The wear makes me want to walk away, especially when the effort feels unappreciated and is blunted or ignored. The effort was ignored 6 months ago and here we are again. No surprise, I guess. The person’s life further eroded, further pained, but at least this time there is hope and a glimmer of change. It could be the first winds of spring, or winter catching its breath. I hope the former.
I don’t want to be a part of this again and will cut and walk away. But then, this week is Humility, and I have to ask dryly, without the glibness or condescension, “What would Jesus do?” I guess you can say it’s fortuitous that this week is Humility. I know the answer to my question, and I know that I will go on being a friend and helping where I can. But I also know I am human, with all that is flawed, and I know the journey will continue for now, but later my own life and family will take precedence.
Ben Franklin’s 13 Virtues: Week 1, Q4
Temperance “Eat not to dullness; drink not to elevation.”
- Pre-holiday cleanse;
- Feel good at the end of the week;
- Reflect on take-aways from the year;
- Act with Temperance, Moderation & Humility this week.
Here we are rolling into our final Quarter, can you believe it? It’s almost been a year. Time really does fly. Ahead is one of my favorite weeks: Temperance. Way I see it, this is a perfectly timed cleanse – a way to feel good heading into the holidays (because I know after the holidays, I feel an extra 10 lbs of terrible).